At different points in our life, for different reasons, we get frustrated or confused by parts of ourselves. We don't understand why we're stuck, or why some parts of our lives are working so well while others are a mess.
We’ve been there, can help you understand what's going on, and what needs to happen to help move you forward.
The Cultural Misfit
You’ve worked incredibly hard to get this point. You have beaten the odds and are great at what you do. You’ve always had to work twice as hard to get the same respect. Throughout it all, you have developed two identities—the one who enjoys the success and is proud of moving up; and the one who at times resents this world that has often undervalued people like you. You are struggling to reconcile these things. You are looking to find the balance between your success at work and your desire to be true to who you are beyond work. Welcome.
Addicted to Mr. Wrong
You look like you have it all. You are smart, successful, and driven. And yet, you can’t escape the inevitable question, “when are you going to get married and start a family.” And while one part of you wants to just say “mind your business, I don’t need anyone else to be happy,” there is another part of you that asks yourself, “when?” It’s not that you can’t attract anybody. It’s that the anybodies you attract are consistently Mr. Wrong. Emotionally unavailable at best, abusive at worst, this seems to be a weak spot you focus on that often overshadows your many strengths. You’ve come to the right place.
Not as Cool as I Seem
“I don’t care” is your go to phrase. People assume you’re just the typical cocky, successful guy who handles his feelings and loves the single life. What they don’t know is that you live like a volcano trying not to erupt. In relationships, your lack of commitment and follow through is not because you don't feel. It’s because you care too much and don’t trust that it will last if things are going well. Somehow someway, you will screw it up or when you let your guard down, the other shoe is going to drop. Not liking to be out of control, you sabotage by leaving, cheating, or creating a fight only proving yourself right that it wasn’t going to work out. You can finally let your guard down and start getting real here. Let’s go.
"I highly recommend Anna Shaffner to anyone who is seeking counseling with her. From my experience with her as a clinical supervisee, and my knowledge from 29 years of clinical experience, Anna is highly skilled, insightful, patient, caring, and ethical as a clinician. Clients working with Anna will benefit from her steadfast commitment to effectively guide them through the healing process."
—George Hage, Ed.D., Ph. D., LPCS, Educator, Pastor, Clinician
“Justin Perry has unique empathy and skills for understanding the issues patients deal with. More importantly, he has a special talent for helping others to understand their issues themselves. In 25 years of practice, I have never worked with a more insightful and skilled therapist.”
—Patricia Zybas, MS, LPC, LCAS, CCS, MAC
Recognized By ...
Southern Living Magazine, Top 50 Southerners, 2016
UNC School of Social Work, Distinguished Alumni Award, 2016
Playing For Others, Night of Gratitude Honoree, 2016
Charlotte Observer, Seven To Watch, 2015
Associated With ...
Charlotte Mecklenburg Community Foundation, Family Stability Committee 2017
OneMECK Co-Chair, to Increase Equity in Housing and Education since 2015
Bruce Irons Camp Fund, Board Member since 2015